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Originally Posted by DubaiSis
As 4th child of 5, and 4th within 5 years, I understand the desire to spend one on one time with mom. We got our time together when she drove me to swim team to be around other kids and gain confidence by being good at something other than academics. I don't necessarily have a problem with home schooling, but when it's done correctly (and I have seen it done correctly) the kids get out and away from mom and dad on a very frequent basis, play in sports, participate in Girl Scouts (or one of the other myriad groups for girls that moms can also participate in), and perform community service. Finding another way to be only at home and only with mom can only be unhealthy.
Whether you call it a sorority or a club, it's still creepy and feels like the first 5 minutes of the Lifetime Original that ends with Mom throwing herself and all of her kids off a cliff. And no, I'm not kidding. I think both you and ALL of your children need help.
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This is what I was thinking, but I didn't want to say it.
I don't have kids, and I won't pretend to be an expert on the subject.. However, if your daughter is spending her entire day with you, and she wants to be with you more, I don't think you should then try to create an exclusive club that includes only the two of you.
Again, a group like the Girl Scouts (or something similar) provides a good opportunity for your daughter to spend time with you, but to also branch out and meet other young girls her own age.. Which is very important at this stage in her life. You don't want to pull her in more and inadvertantly make her attached to you. I've seen it happen - one of my friends in college did EVERYTHING with her mom growing up (almost every story she told started with, "My mom and I..") and then she couldn't even get a C on a paper without calling her mom and crying about it. She dropped out halfway through her sophomore year to go to a community college 10 minutes from her house.
It's great that your daughter wants to spend time with you.. Just make sure she's getting out and meeting other people. And don't try to "shut out" the outside world by creating an exclusive group for just the two of you. You're mother and daughter.. That's a pretty special club in and of itself.
And if your daughter saw the show Greek and is interested in what Greek life is about, explain to her that sororities are groups that girls join in college, and when she gets to college, she can try to join one too.