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Originally Posted by KDCat
That's awful!
I went to a small school which only had 3 sororities (Missouri S&T), but they used to take a middle ground on this. You had to attend all parties up until pref, but you could decline any pref invitation you received. You could attend pref at all 3 if you were invited to all 3 or you could attend pref at just one, even if you were invited to all three. We were given a schedule to tell us what time to be at each house. IRC, we met a Rho Chi near the house and went in as a group.
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I'm a recently initiated member of this chapter, and from what I gather, this has been changed. Don't take my word as 100%, because although our Rho Chi's were wonderful ladies, I felt extremely uninformed during the recruitment process. But from hearing the older ladies talk, it seems that last year was the final year you were allowed to turn down invitations from the chapters for pref, and this year they required you to go to every party on your list. I feel like we were told that we had to attend all parties during the whole process or we would be ineligible for a bid. Luckily for me, I only preffed at my favorite chapter so this wasn't a problem for me, but I did notice many girls during my pref party who clearly didn't want to be there but were still trying to be polite about it.
Carnation, your story sounds awful and I feel for those poor girls. It would be so heartbreaking to experience something like that! I would have no idea what to do in a situation like that, I hope those ladies played it off as gracefully as possible and still enjoyed their time as collegians.