I "got" to hear what my sister's chapter said about me after they cut me. My sister had just graduated but still had several friends in the chapter, of course. I heard they didn't think I "would be a very enthusiastic member." Me, who has never stopped being involved since pledging in 1984. Anyway, I wasn't devastated and really think it would not have been the right place for me. I'm not NEARLY bitchy enough to have been one of them.
I'm glad I got to know because to me, even then, it told me they were clueless.