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Originally Posted by LaneSig
1) Try and go to as many as possible. But, if you don't feel the "vibe" at one house, don't waste your time. Move on to the next fraternity. Make sure that you do spend time at the ones you have interest in. But, again - if it doesn't feel right, go to the next one.
2) Khakis and button down are always a good choice. It's a casual Friday look. If you are going to the groups on your own, keep a jacket and tie in your car. If you see other pnms in jacket and tie, you can always go back and put yours on.
3) Talk about normal things: campus sports, classes, your interests, etc. Ask questions about the chapter: pledging process, live-in requirements, national philanthropies, gpa requirements. You can ask about socials, but do it in a way that it doesn't look like you only want to join to party.
4) If you know someone in the fraternity, seek them out. If you don't know anyone, just be friendly and don't act shy. There will be other guys who the groups are already aware of and have "bids in hand". But, many of the chapters are looking for guys to add to the chapter.
My best advice: Walk the line of friendliness with confidence - not shy or cocky. If you go in thinking "I'm not going to get a bid", you will set yourself up for failure. Good luck. Come back and let us know how it goes.
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Couldn't have said it any better. Also, if you can find out what each Fraternity stands for and their philanthropy efforts, try and tie your extracurricular activities into it, provided that they apply (trust me, this can be a big thing).
Good luck!
P.S. Like LaneSig said, if you don't get the greatest vibe with some of the brothers at a particular house, don't feel bad. There is bound to be ATLEAST one that fits you, so don't hesitate to go onto the next house.