[33girl]

It's better to do it now, than to go through with initiation and go inactive directly after. And I know you know this, but you can get those "pros" at any fraternity.

If anyone should ask when you're going through rush again why you did what you did, just be honest and say "I didn't look around enough when I rushed initially, and I liked the guys I met at XYZ and thought that was enough. I really wanted it to work, but I came to the hard decision that it just wasn't the right place for me. I hope everything works out well for them."

If next semester, you rush a fraternity that is intent on running down the one you're currently pledging/depledged - steer clear. They may be the same sow's ear dressed as a silk purse. The above should be the answer to the question and the subject closed.