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Every sorority is different though. We had a sister go through a very similar situation (stalker and all) and while we pulled together around her for it (I hope), it was a really hard time for her, I know. Maybe your sisters weren't sure how to be there for you; could you maybe share with them what would work for you? Also perhaps seeing a counselor, if you're not already, would not be out of the question as I don't think friends can give you all the support you need at a time like this. Has your chapter thought of doing a candle pass (i.e. you light a a candle and go around the room and each woman who has the candle shares either their 'life story' so to speak or just 'what's going on in their life' type stuff if you know each others' life stories). We did that with my new member class of 30 and it bonded us really well because we knew where the others were coming from and it helped us understand each other.

If you try all of that and it still isn't working, I second going to your advisor or emailing maybe someone in your region (if you don't have an advisor). That could let you know what your options are. We also have the opportunity to reduce participation and dues through our standards board (or Honor Council) in a process called special consideration. That may not be an option for you, but it could be.

In any event I would suggest that you try to reach out to get the support you need before going inactive completely. It may be possible that you just didn't give these women the chance to support you or they didn't know how. I know my sisters, when I told them what was happening in different situations in my life, have been incredibly helpful. And like I said, with the sister who did have a stalker, we made sure she never went anywhere alone, stopped wearing letters, took them off our windows, etc to make sure she was safe. We even offered to bring her food before he was caught because she just didn't feel safe. Just let them know what's up, if you haven't already, is my advice. I hope things get better for you soon.