[agdmeg]

I'll tell you a little about my experience, in hopes that it might help you with yours.

I was in my sorority for a whole year, having the time of my life, dating someone in a fraternity who was close friends with many of my sisters as well. I loved life... until that certain boy broke up with me. My sisters disowned me, listening to everything that guy said about me; everything was untrue, but they refused to believe me. No one would talk to me, and I grew extremely depressed and didn't want anything to do with my sorority. I tried everything: apologizing to the girls who believed I'd done some wrong to them, talking with the President of our sorority, etc. I decided to talk to our Chapter Advisor, and went early alum on terms of "extenuating circumstances."

A few months after I went alum, my sisters, who had previously been my best friends, began reaching out to me to try to include me again. They'd realized that what had happened had just all been a big mistake that had gotten blown out of proportion. I try to be involved with the sorority whenever I can. Sure, there is still one girl -out of 40some- who won't speak to me, but the rest are my sisters and stand by me - how they should.

Moral of the story is, like my grandmother always told me, "this too shall pass." I know it's really difficult when it seems like everyone is against you and you feel you aren't being included, but please, give it time. I don't want you to disaffiliate. At the time, it was the right thing for me to do, but you're a new sorority member. You have another 3.5 years ahead of you!! And I promise you, you will form inseparable bonds with your sisters in those years. Keep your chin up, because things will get better. Yes, at times you will get sick of the drama that's there, but there's drama in any friendship between girls at one point or another. Just keep trying and don't give up. At the end of your college career, you'll look back on this and laugh, knowing that you'd be lost without your sorority, because you'd formed so many friendships and memories with them.