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Originally Posted by chlorax
Ok so basically I rushed three fraternities during rush week at my school. At every single one, I got to know as many of the brothers as possible, I would say I was as friendly as possible, and said just about all the right things about why I wanted to be in a fraternity. I was even invited to smoke with some of the brothers at one of the houses, so this was a sign that as I was really clicking with them. I went to as many rush events as possible at each of the 3 fraternities. But once bid day came around, I was very disappointed to find out on that I didn't get a bid from anywhere. My GPA is relatively low (2.46) but I was told by several brothers that even if you have a low GPA, you can get a bid and not be able to actually pledge until the grades go up.
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I'll assume you're talking about cigarettes. I don't know how that's a sign that you're clicking with them. When I'm smoking, I'll chit chat with anyone outside. That doesn't mean I want these people to be my fraternity brothers.
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And I know many people on here are going to say, "ask the brothers why you didn't get a bid." However, most fraternities have a policy where they cannot provide you that information, so I am still wondering. Thats why I wanted to know if anyone else on here got rejected from a fraternity, and if you did, do you know why? Or if there are any active brothers on this forum who could tell me why they decline rushees.
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With all due respect, if the fraternities have a policy, how does asking online circumvent that policy?
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And my last question, do you think I am missing out on a lot of social life not being in a fraternity. I don't have that many friends, so I was hoping this would be my way of getting a few. But now I kind of feel like a loser and a loner. I don't know what to do, most people already have their friend groups and don't want to reach out to anybody.
Should I rush the fraternities in the spring or something and hope that they reconsider me? Or is it not worth it?
B.Q: For active brothers, how often do you guys throw parties.
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Greek life did help me meet people, but it didn't mean OMG I HAVE MILLIONS OF FRIENDS. My letters were often a conversation starter, but I still had to put in work in order to keep my budding friendships going.
Join some campus clubs. Join an intramural sport. Talk to people. This is how you'll meet people.
Good luck.