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Originally posted by KerriMarie
There is this girl that works with me that apparantly pledged my sorority in the fall and didn't end up being initiated. (I was studying abroad in London and am not aware of all the details...) Well, she obtained a few Kappa shirts during her pledge period and wears them to work. I'm not totally OK with her doing this, and to make it even worse, she is rude to people (including me) while wearing MY letters! I really hate that she behaves this way while representing a sorority that she isn't even a part of. Is there anything I can do? Should I ask Chapter Council to intervene?
Help!!
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I wanted to ask, why was she not initiated? Did she depledge or was she asked to leave the chapter? If you discover that she left under negative'ish terms, I would request to her that she NOT wear the Kappa shirts.
On the other hand, did she have to leave school (family situation) or maybe she was not initiated due to marks? In that case, we all have to remember that
Kappa saw something in her to extend her a bid in the first place. Why not set the wheels in motion to get her properly initiated instead of "bumping into her with Kool-Aid"?
I would talk to her, find out more about her circumstances and whether she is still interested in Kappa. If she is, then I would do the sisterly thing and help her to re-activate her affiliation. If she is wearing the shirts, presumably she wants people to think she is a Kappa, so I would think that to mean that she still has an interest in being initiated into full-fledged membership. (If she didn't, I would imagine she would use those t-shirts to wash her car with)
If you are done school, I know that Kappa will initiate alumnae women, providing that
they meet certain criteria.
I hope that this helps. It seemed like everyone was so eager to get after this girl that I was compelled to offer a dissenting opinion.