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Originally Posted by DrPhil
I think there is something wrong with the actual purity balls themselves and not just with the people behind the purity balls. Therefore, I also think it is possible for there to be something wrong with certain types of purity pledges beyond just the people behind the purity pledges.
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Fair enough.
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Originally Posted by DrPhil
Is this a dad-daughter thing or just a concerned parent thing?
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My other concerned parent was not a subject in the post so she was not mentioned.
(Stereo)Typically, it is the father who would rather gouge his eyes out than think about his little girl having sex than the mother (or she hides her panic better, either one).
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Originally Posted by Munchkin03
No, but the culture that has allowed the pledges, purity balls, and other such things to flourish thrives off of making sex something dirty or bad.
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True at times.
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Originally Posted by KSUViolet06
The "not ever allowed to be alone together before marriage" weirds me out too. Ex: one girl I read about has to be chaperoned at all times by her parents or a sibling until the wedding.
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This weekend, I found out this is what it was like for our pastor and his wife during the entire TWO YEARS of their relationship (2005-2007) before they were married. If they were ever alone together,
his parents were constantly calling to ask when he was coming home because it's getting to be too late to be out with his girlfriend. I don't get that but it's not mine to get, I suppose.
So I'm back from my retreat with my "holy heathens" (who actually aren't that heatheny at all
) and I was shocked at how many of the older teen girls actually want to wait till marriage but
didn't want to discuss it with their parents. One even said she wanted to buy a purity ring but didn't want her mom to know about it because of the huge deal her mom would make. I thought of this thread and asked if they felt pressure to keep the boys at bay like not having sex was only the girls' responsibility--the YES was epic. They didn't feel that message from the church but just from the world in general and were resentful. The girls felt that the decision to have sex or not have sex shouldn't be about their "responsibility as young ladies," but rather an independent decision--and whatever they choose should not be a reflection of everyone who has helped raise them but rather earn them respect as individuals who can make decisions for their own lives. That amount of decision-making and taking control of their own lives and behavior was way more impressive to me than the waiting itself. I was proud of them all.
I wish stuff like this was on TV. We were bantering about this till 2am and it would have made for GREAT ratings. These girls are hilarious.
