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Originally Posted by 33girl
First off, I wouldn't make not having to be sober a reward - it sends a bad message. Reducing house fees is a far better idea.
It's always great to see fraternities hanging out with each other and having good relations. That being said, if members of a certain group rarely had their own parties and only went to those of other fraternities, I would immediately label them losers, cheapskates and a couple other things as well. (And I'm a girl, so it's not like you have to rush me.)
Is there a reason that the chapter members don't want to have parties of your own? Do you have issues with the house or its location?
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No, our house is both the nicest fraternity house on campus (by a rather large margin, if I do say so myself) and the closest to campus. I don't know why they are against having parties at the house. We've had two registered parties this semester (both of which were two of the best parties of the semester), and almost nothing else. When we DO have parties, they are very high-quality and have high turnouts and success, but it's getting everyone to do it more often. Ideally, I'd like us to have about two parties a month, which is still on the low-end compared to the other fraternities, but I don't think the other members have much regard for our reputation across campus. When I bring up the idea of creating incentives to go to another GLOs fundraisers, they say they disagree with it because it should be the choice of the individual member to go, and if you don't want to go, then you shouldn't have to, and you're not obligated to go because that's not your fraternity. I think this is a horrible stance to take on the situation because not only does attending another GLOs fundraisers help your reputation, but other GLOs will come to your fundraisers, and people will remember what you do for them when it comes time for things like IFC elections. It can do nothing but help our fraternity.
We just had IFC elections, and we had three brothers up for elections, and only one won. I feel like if we were more reputable, we would have 2, if not 3, IFC execs right now. Right now, the most popular fraternity on our campus is APD, and they have 3 execs, while every other fraternity has one exec: that's not a coincidence.
There was also a strong correlation between how many parties each fraternity had and how large their pledge classes and how many people they initiated were. I'm not advocating recruiting off of parties, I just think it's another tool to get people in our doors during rush week. Like I said, if there's someone we don't want, we don't have to give them a bid. Worst case scenario is we attract someone that isn't a good fit for our fraternity and we don't give them a bid.
Ever since my initiation, I've noticed a lot of apathy, and quite frankly it's saddening. I want to change the culture, but it's not easy at all.