[33girl]

First off, I wouldn't make not having to be sober a reward - it sends a bad message. Reducing house fees is a far better idea.

It's always great to see fraternities hanging out with each other and having good relations. That being said, if members of a certain group rarely had their own parties and only went to those of other fraternities, I would immediately label them losers, cheapskates and a couple other things as well. (And I'm a girl, so it's not like you have to rush me.)

Is there a reason that the chapter members don't want to have parties of your own? Do you have issues with the house or its location?