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Originally Posted by amIblue?
The only thing that I can compare it to is slowly being boiled to death. You're hanging out in a nice comfy pot of water. Slowly the temperature keeps rising, but it's not unbearable. The temperature keeps creeping up, and the next thing you know, you're in a roiling pit of hell.
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That's exactly how I would describe abuse starting - an insult, a shove, something not worth mentioning when held by itself. Then it piles on and somebody loses it. I actually called a woman's shelter and asked if I was abused. I can remember practicing saying, "I want some time apart, so we can get some counseling," over and over again. When I was branded with a curling iron, what came out of my mouth was, "I want a divorce."
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Originally Posted by amIblue?
I'm so sorry to hear that.
The isolation is the worst; I went from having tons and tons of friends to not so many. Of course, going through something awful like that tends to separate the chaff from the wheat in terms of good friends vs. not good friends, but it's terrible to feel so alone.
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This is something that bothers me, as I prepare to (finally!) marry again. I always said that the only time I was ever lonely was when I was married.
Anyone who's reading this and sees the slightest resemblance to the relationship that they're in, please, call someone, describe a normal day, and see what's up. Don't be overly dramatic, but start an escape plan. Leave some clothes or valuables with someone you trust, especially someone your abuser doesn't know. Save every penny you can, and make sure it's well hidden, and make sure you have a good exit strategy!
IrishLake, I didn't see your post before. ((((((((((((((((((((IrishLake)))))))))))))))))