[FuzzieAlum]

Well, I think there's a long distance between them wanting your chapter first and dropping your chapter first chance they get. I know that I for one would have been perfectly contented in my second-choice sorority. (But then again, that's why I didn't suicide!)

If they dropped you right away, though, they probably really don't want you. It is possible that they will see over time that Chapter "One" won't give them the bid of their dreams, and they will find out they really fit in somewhere else - maybe your house - but at snap bid time they are still pining for that one house.

The way I look at it, any girl who ends up in Alpha Xi Delta has been granted a terrific gift. They may have dropped us because they used poor judgment, but anyone truly worthy of our sisterhood will soon realize that they're better off in AXD than anywhere else!

Not every house has the luxury of having every member desiring them first and foremost. If your chapter has that luxury, great, but lots of other chapters have to work harder to get rushees to look beyond their less-glamorous house, their smaller numbers, their willingness to accept not-gorgeous girls, their status as a local, etc., things that don't in any way make them a truly worse sisterhood.