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It's been awhile, but I think laveliering was really a symbol of "going steady" so it wasn't too terribly uncommon. I don't think we had an engagement the whole time I was in school, which I think is a good thing. I believe in the idea that you should only have one major life change at a time, and to the extent that you can control it, you should. Graduating from college, getting a job and (likely) moving away is all the change you need at one time!
But back on topic, the laveliering ceremonies were usually a surprise because you didn't necessarily know when a girl had moved from dating a guy a few times to officially being exclusive. And this would be a tradition that I think you could try to introduce to your campus without too much hoopla. The guy can go out and buy you the $50 lavelier and give it to you without having to involve the whole fraternity if he doesn't want to, and presuming they don't have any rules to the contrary.
We did once around for lavelier, twice for pinned, three times for engaged. And I think the secretary is the one who scheduled them.
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