NOOOOOOOO... I had a really long bitching post and it just deleted itself
Guess I'll start again.
My future MIL is a very nice lady. Very nice.
She is, however, a bit overbearing. She cannot rest until she has made extremely detailed plans of everything and has multiple back up emergency plans for everything. Hey, it's good to be prepared...but this is extreme.
I remember in college there were a few times where fiance had something he had to take care of/prepare for. She will often do research (UNSOLICITED RESEARCH) on whatever he needs to take care of/prepare for and call him to tell him all the steps he needs to take in order to get to point A to point B. Again, he never asked for her help, she just does it.
Last Thanksgiving, we started the day at my aunts house and finished at his aunts house. She printed us out directions with her own detailed notes that included his aunt & uncles first names (in case he forgot?????) and their phone numbers, in case we got lost.
When we took a trip together in the spring, she checked out 3 books from the library about the city to take with us and gave me a folder of stuff she printed out; our itineraries & hotel confirmation info.
She is also terrified of bad whether. One time during winter break in college it started snowing when I was at his house. She heard we were supposed to get a half a foot of snow, so she made me go home early. I live 4 miles away and it snowed 2 inches.
When I was visiting him back in September, there was a tropical storm heading our way (he lives in Louisiana for now). She called several times to make sure everything was ok. Obviously whether was bad in some parts but we were perfectly safe; no flooding in our area and it really was just rain...it didn't even thunderstorm! I remember the first time he answered the phone and she didn't even say hi, all I heard was "there's a tropical storm warning and flash flood warning!!!" As if we weren't paying attention to the weather and didn't know what to do if things got ugly.
So anyways...fiance will be in town tomorrow (woo hoo!) for a friend's wedding. I offered to pick him up about 2 weeks ago, but we didn't confirm it. I got an IM from FMIL about a half hour ago saying that she hasnt been able to get a hold of fiance (which is no surprise, he is NOT good at remembering to look at his cell phone), and to please call her cause she had questions about this weekend. I kid you not, our phone call included all of the following:
What time is is flight? What airline? Are you going to pick him up? You mentioned you were going to, but I just wanted to confirm. We can pick him up, it's no problem, but I just wanted to be sure. Are you bringing him here or will you be both getting ready at your house? What time is the wedding and reception? Did you book a hotel? He mentioned you guys were planning on it but I didn't know if you had done that yet. What time is his flight back? I know there's a really late flight, is that the one? I just wanted to confirm because he's not answering his phone. Don't worry, I also sent him an email this morning reminding him to check into his flight and to make sure he packs everything he needs like his suit, a tie, shoes, etc. Oh and I reminded him that he needs to make arrangements for how to get to the airport.
YOUR SON IS 23 YEARS OLD. He is a big boy now. He can figure out how to prepare for a trip. I get the whole what time is he coming in thing. I totally understand what time they should expect him to be there. That's normal and fair. But do you really need to know all of the details of the wedding RIGHT NOW. Do you really need to know if we are staying at a hotel RIGHT NOW. Don't you think these things will be mentioned to you when he sees you in the morning. Do you really need to know his departing flight RIGHT NOW. TAKE A BREATH, LADY.
I don't know, maybe I'm over reacting, but I am feeling slightly suffocated by this. Fiance has learned to tune it out after all these years, lol For him, it's gotten to be just a "smile and nod" kind of thing and it doesn't seem to bother him. But it's making me anxious. I'm frankly a little insulted at some of her questions about our plans for the weekend. They're OUR plans. You don't think I realized I needed to book a hotel room in advance?
I just I can't imagine my mom sending me an email reminding me of what I need to pack and telling me I have to arrange airport transportation. Again, I'd be insulted if my mom didn't think I could handle that, lol
I suppose this could be a million times worse, but I really will need to work on my patience...