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Originally Posted by carnation
They haven't- but hardly any adoptees I know have any medical history, be they domestic or international adoptees. A lot of adoptions go like this: "here's an apparently healthy kid, do you want to adopt him/her?" And people are so desperate for a baby that they don't ask any questions.
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Originally Posted by Munchkin03
The operative phrase here is "through the family doctor." In smallish towns, there might be a lot of information (either confirmed or hearsay) about the birthparents. In locations where girls went out of town to have the baby, the information is very, very scant.
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My point is just that you
don't need to have an open adoption to know about the baby's medical history. There's nothing preventing the birth mother from writing down as much family medical history as she knows and giving it to the adoption agency, along with the baby. If that info doesn't get passed on, then the agency (or whoever the adoption facilitator is) is the one falling down on the job.
I understand being desperate, but you have to think at the same time. If you can't do that, enlist a lawyer or somone else who will do the cold hard thinking for you and pull you back if you're going to do something unwise. If you have $$$$$ to spend on all these other things, you have it to spend on a lawyer.