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Originally Posted by KSUViolet06
That type of interaction would have NEVER happened when say, my mom was a teen. They had the stories of girls getting pregnant and "going away" for 9 months. Then coming back after having given up their babies for adoption. No one ever talked about it. They never got to see their kids (until years later when they were adults.) It was all very hush hush and adoptive parents wouldnt dream of speaking to the birth mom. They got the bare minimum of info about the parents because everything was so discreet.
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Well said Violet. I was adopted and it was and is still closed (my choice). I've always known it and it's as much of a part of me as my brown eyes. My parents went through the norm back in those days for adopting, which included the home studies, religious agency studies, applications and years of waiting time for a "healthy white infant". My parents brought me home two months after I was born. Is it easy to adopt, then or now? Of course not, just as it's not easy to give birth or to raise a child regardless of how they joined your family.