How can you not go immediately to that when you hear someone (literally in your case) preaching so vehemently. After all the proof we've been given over and over again, any Congressman who is a public homophobe you KNOW is getting some in the cloak room. The best we can hope for is the man he's shtooping is a grown up. Proof once again that taking it down a notch is the way to go.
When people talk about marriages and what works, I think of a woman I know who has been married for 25 years. They fight like cats and dogs every single day. It's unbelievably uncomfortable to be around them for any extended period of time. Every little moment of less than pure bliss is an invitation to start screaming. 25 years. This is clearly the marriage they want or they'd have gotten out of that hell before they even got married - it was like this from day one. I would have bet $100 they'd never make it down the aisle. I believe they use a joint account and I highly doubt she has her own bank account. She trusts him completely, and as far as I can tell, she's safe to. But I'd have hanged myself years ago before putting up with that much negativity every day.