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Originally Posted by MysticCat
I didn't say it isn't. What I said is don't expect to get the same advice from all those successful people, because people are different, and what works for someone might not work for someone else. There's not always one right answer, as evidence by the successfully married people in this thread who have disagreed with some of the advice you've talked about.
Gather all the opinions you want from all the successful people/couples you want, then make up your own mind about what bits of advice you've gotten might be helpful to you and what bits advice aren't so much.
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<applause> Even what defines a "successful" marriage varies greatly. I see people who are VERY happy and think their marriages are successes, and they are, for them. I see fewer people who are in the kind of marriage that I would be happy in. Even when I get discouraged and think that everybody who is single at my age is just too damaged to have a successful relationship, I see a couple who gives me hope again...lol.