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Originally Posted by AOII Angel
I think money is the number one reason couples argue, so if covering your ass makes you feel more comfortable about money so you don't feel the need to fight all the time about money, this may be the best way to preserve your marriage/relationship. Not everyone views marriage or money the same. It can be very difficult. I have friends who fight over money all the time because the husband makes more than the wife because she stays home part time with their child. He's controlling with the money and criticizes her for buying stuff they don't need but is fine going out and spending extravagantly for himself. This even applies if she's spending "her" money. If couples can find a happy medium, then that's great...no matter what motivation gets them there.
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If you're that far apart on money, IMO you shouldn't get married in the first place. It's SO much heavier than people realize. Even if you have separate accounts, if you're saying every other day "it's MY money and I'll do what I want with it" that's not a healthy relationship. Maybe you're not fighting-fighting, but you're still feeling the disapproval of the other person.
(Thanks heaven that I learned this lesson in my very first serious relationship.)