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Originally Posted by 33girl
But if the school is one where Greek life is NOT big and where outright saying "we have spots open to fill" can leave you open to any number of freakazoids or letter pimps walking through your door, then no, don't tell them right away. The girls who may be the best members may have been the ones most turned off by formal rush or the stereotypes, and if you straight up say "we're looking for members" not only might you lose a potential member, you also might lose a friend. ("Oh man...Jessie was only being nice to me to get me to join her stupid sorority. Screw her.")
We basically did what AOIIAngel outlined - got to know people by inviting them them to sit w/ us at lunch, hanging out with them in other contexts, maybe inviting them if we went to a campus theater production. We then had an open bid party so all the sisters and all the girls we'd been getting to know could meet each other at once. Then we voted on who to give bids to. THIS IS AN ONGOING PROCESS and you should be working on it all spring if your formal rush is in the fall, or vice versa, so that if your formal rush doesn't go well, you have those girls you've been cultivating to fill your pledge class. NO, everyone you meet will not be a fit, but if you confine yourself to formal rush only at a school like in my second example, your Greek system will eventually disappear up its own butthole.
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So much win in these statements, especially what's bold. I think that you're completely correct in saying this and this has to be something my chapter has to tread lightly around as we are starting to really get into informal recruitment mode.