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I can relate to your pain...I have had two daughters go thru rush at very competitive schools, and the stress can make you crazy. Despite what we tell our daughters, it becomes very personal. These houses have made her feel special, and then she is cut, and to an 18 year old who for the most part has had a pretty blessed life with few disappointments, the focus becomes what is wrong with me?? You feel like your heart is being ripped out because you can't help them, but that is part of growing up. You tell them this will be a growing experience that will make them stronger but they don't want to hear that at the time. Encourage her to complete the process-sometimes they get caught up in the emotion and they're so emotionally exhausted they can make rash decisions they come to regret (my oldest daughter dropped out but then went thru the following year with alot more wisdom about the process, but she was unhappy her freshman year watching what she could have been involved in if she'd let the process play out-she did join a sorority that probably wasn't at the top of her list the previous year). The focus right now is 6 houses invited her back...I'm sure there are many girls that don't have those kind of choices. My best advice is have a martini (or two) to make it thru the next few days!
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