[DG Illinois]

Originally Posted by BlueOwl

DG Illinois, was it a legacy chapter that did not invite your daughter back?? Ahhh, that happened to my daughter when she rushed three years ago. It hurts when your sorority drops your own daughter!! I actually had to put my badge in the back of a drawer for months!! Just couldn't look at it because it hurt my heart too much!! But, hey, my daughter had a great outcome and is happy as can be in her sorority!! So, yes, your girl will be just fine too!!

Loving this thread!!!

Thanks! No I am actually her Aunt so she was not a legagy. My sister was in a different house there though and that house is still on her schedule so my sister is so excited. We are just very close and I tried to convince her that maybe she loved my house so much because she loves me so much. She is excited about the houses she is visiting today, I just think it's a little scary because she told me she's afraid to really bond with anyone in case they don't invite her back tomorrow. I reminded her this process is hard but worth it, throw yourself into these parties and be yourself and don't worry about invites. I know it's easy to say, but I just keep saying positive things over and over again and hope that it sinks in somewhere.

I'm sorry about your daughter and I would be very sad if the same happened to my daughters. But reading that your daughter found her home in a house with different letters and is so happy shows that it is really something that is probably much more important to me because I want to share that with them. But what I truly want is for my daughters to be happy just like we all do. (Thankfully that's a long while away). I can say that the 4 years I was there we really took our legacies in almost every situation. I don't want anyone to get mad at me, I realize the number of legacies is much larger now, but there was no way any of us wanted to call the legacy and advise them their daughter was not returning. I never met any rushee (as we would say) that didn't have special qualities that we would love, so there was never a valid reason to not invite them to join our house.

I appreciate this site so much though because it really helps me understand how today is so different in regards to legacies and RFM.
I will be better able to prepare my daughters for the expectaton of what rush is today and to go into it with an open heart and to expect some parts of it to be difficult. Also I love that I am a legagy to my biological daughter and my beautiful step-daughter who I am lucky enough to have in my life! They are the same exact age too, so I will need all of you when I have both my girls going through at the same time!

And I didn't change the font in italics to be dramatic, it just happened and I'm too lazy to rewrite everything !