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I was in a similar position to you several years ago. After three years as an active, I had to transfer to a school in my hometown where there wasn't a Kappa chapter. Was I sad about being an alum before I thought I would be? Yes. Did I miss sorority life. Yes. It was particularly hard for me because I knew a bunch of women from high school who were in sororities. There happened to be a local on my campus at the time, but it never once crossed my mind to even try to gain dual membership. Even though the local did some of same things my chapter had done, it wouldn't have been the same.

I found other ways to get involved with my campus. I missed being in a sorority, but I got over it. I am now working with a local collegiate chapter, and I'm really enjoying it.

Sometimes in life, circumstances arise that are less than ideal. The sooner one learns to accept that and make the best of a not-quite-awesome situation, the better off one will be.

I bet you'll find that you're not going to get the exact same experience out of the new group as the old. This could happen even if your new school had AGD and you affiliated with that chapter.

Best of luck to you.