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That's how I now feel.
It took FSiL over a week to respond to my email where I made some suggestions regarding my role as a bridesmaid. She shut me down, suggested I just order a dress a few sizes bigger than what I was before I got pregnant. So, um, no, I'm sorry, I'm not going to order the largest size possible, and then just have them alter the shit out of it when the time comes, because it'll look like ass if it gets over-altered. So, I tried to call her last night, no luck. Called my brother this morning and gave him the heads up. He was disappointed, I can tell, which makes me feel terrible because I love my brother dearly. I told him I'd still love to be involved in some way. He was defending her decision because of what DB is feeding FSiL, that dresses should be ordered by mid-October and no later, or else risk the dress getting discontinued. Ok, I can understand that concern, maybe a little.
Anyway, I finally talked to her tonight. I was apologetic, said I'd be honored to still be involved in some way, things would be different if I weren't pregnant right this second, but considering my size now, and what I was before I got preggo, and what I'll be after because I always lose a ton of weight in the months right after having a baby.... it's like 3 sizes difference. The last bridesmaid dress I got from DB was 2 sizes bigger than normal just to fit my boobs and I had to have it altered in the waist. She again suggested I just order a dress a few sizes bigger, and then just have them alter the hell out of it when the time comes. I told her that just wasn't a practical idea, not with this style of dress. Throw in the fact I'll be toting around a 5 month old baby... it's just not meant to be, it's not practical. I told her my kids are still excited to be involved, and that my husband still wanted to be a groomsman, provided she finds another bridesmaid. If they don't, no big deal, he has no problem stepping aside. Her response?
"Well, I wish you had told me sooner. I have other girls I could ask to be bridesmaids, but now that it's coming down to be the time to order the dresses, I don't know if I feel right asking them now and telling them it would have to be ordered in like 4 weeks."
Um. WTF? YOU JUST ASKED ME 3 WEEKS AGO!!!!!!!!! Then it was:
"Well, I'm disappointed, but, it is what it is I guess. I was afraid this was going to happen."
THEN, I suggested the cookie table, I'd be more than willing to handle all of that.
"No, we aren't having anything like that."
No kids.
No cookie table.
I will be drinking heavily come June.
Smile still plastered on, in my nicest voice, I said "Well, my daughter is still really looking forward to being a flowergirl, so just let me know when you want to look at dresses for that."
"Oh, yeah I don't know when that's going to be, I'm really busy right now."
I'm refraining from talking to my brother for a wile, because I don't want to say something I'll regret. So help me if she punishes me by removing my kids from everything. I will kick my brothers ass from here to kingdom come.