The parties lasted about an hour with each sorority which I stuck through for a few days of recruitment and because my school is so small I was able to hang out with them in a significant manner. I have not judged anyone based on first impressions, these are my judgements after MANY tries at getting to know them. As far as I'm concerned choosing something like a sorority is not solely based on using someone's brain. If it is a mutual selection process and I am not in it because my instincts tell me otherwise, then I'm ignoring one of the most basic instincts. Your feelings and your brain are connected and I'm sure that you have not gone through with something because something inside of you wasn't making you feel right about it. I had no expectations going into recruitment except to enjoy myself and keep an open mind---which I did. But again if I'm not feeling good about something (let alone something that costs hundreds of dollars that no one is giving me) I want to feel as good about that decision as possible. Just because someone tells you "it might get better," what about all the girls who followed that advice and aren't happy at all. So this is my conclusion after I did USE MY BRAIN. So you can go and use your brain to stop making general assumptions about someone based on very little knowledge because right now you're judging a book by its cover.