[DGTess]

LGN1212, I'm with you. As GLO members, we often preach great virtues like integrity and scholarship and honor and ... but some make snap judgments based on a few letters of recommendation and less than four hours of person-to-person contact. It's for that reason that I showed by daughter the rush booklet that came to the house for her, said "are you interested" and took her "no" at face value. Other young ladies are interested, and are willing to go through the big southern school variation of the system. There are those who believe "this is the system we're stuck with" because they can't see any other way; there are those who honestly believe this is the best possible system; there are those who think as you do. Who's right? Who knows? We all think we are, of course.

Now, is she adrift amongst happy strangers because she accepted a bid and still doesn't fit in, or did she not accept a bid? Mind you, I'm of the (GC-minority, apparently) mindset that declining a bid beats taking one you don't want, but your post wasn't clear on that point.