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Originally Posted by SECmom629
Furthermore, is it a bad idea to contact the VP of recruitment for that chapter? Or hinting at leaving a large donation upon her graduation? I would never want to do anything to bring her negative attention! Thanks!
Concerned Mother
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I know how heartbreaking it is to be dropped by your legacy sorority. I was dropped by my legacy group just before prefs, and I'd been confident that I was going to be my mother's sister. Didn't happen, but I didn't drop out of rush because I still had invites from three awesome groups for pref night.
Only negative attention will come from either of those actions. Try both and I'd be willing to bet dollars to doughnuts that every chapter in panhellenic will have heard about how her mommy is trying to push/buy DD's way into ABC sorority. At that point, she could put any thought of being in a sorority on that campus away for good.
Seriously, if you're not a troll, and being in the legacy sorority is so important to both of you, I don't know why you didn't enroll DD in a school where rush isn't so competitive that has a chapter of your sorority, get initiated, and then transfer to the SEC school of choice. (
Not that I condone this by any means!) If you're willing to try to bribe her way in, taking a campus detour shouldn't be too abhorrent to you.
Best thing for you to do now is to step away and let her handle it for herself. Listen to her and support her if she's sad, but
you can't fix this for her. She is now a young adult. She will have worse things in life happen to her than this, so it's good that she learn how to handle disappointment.