[33girl]

There are many schools that do have deferred rush. NPC doesn't advocate it, and neither do many of the local chapters with large houses as it would make housing contracts a mess (from what I gather, at most of these schools you need to decide your next year's housing at the end of the first semester).

Your daughter happens to have been born in a time where sorority enrollment is increasing, partly because of the birth rate, and partly because of other factors. Also, Panhellenic regulations are much stricter than they used to be. No more looking the other way at dirty rushing or chapters that are taking way more women than they should. Those were most likely going on when you went through rush.

I'm sorry your daughter was unlucky, but so were many other young women. Did she not sign a bid card after pref, or did she sign a bid card and not get a bid?

The moral of the story is, if Greek life is that important to you, realize what the Greek system is like when you're picking a college. Don't assume that you can make it bend to fit what you would like it to be. If you're looking at a college that has everything you want BUT the Greek system is unhoused/too competitive/locals only/insert other thing that would put you off, you have to either realize that Greek life may not be part of your college life or may not be what you thought it would be, or else look for another college that suits you.

Many of us on here would not be Greek if we had gone to different kinds of colleges than we did.