[PhoenixAzul]

For the record, "Mrs." translates to "Wife of". So Mr and Mrs John Doe = Mr and Wife of John Doe. That is why it irks me a bit, because I'm not only not given my own name, but I'm demoted to being just "Wife of".

My husband and I have different last names (I'm a hyphen), so our invitations would go
Ms. Firstname Phoenix-Azul
and
Mr. Husband ZZZZZZ

Because the first letter of the first part of my last name (still with me?) is alphabetically higher than his last name.

I always laugh when we get things addressed to "Mr and Mrs Phoenix-Azul," and my husband blanched at it the first time it happened. I told him that that's how women have felt for thousands of years.

When we got married, I aimed for a middle ground. For my friends, I did just BoyFirst and LadyFirst Lastname (going with the alphabetical rule). For my parents friends I did the Mr. and Mrs. BoyFirst Lastname (which killed me to do, but it wasn't worth the fight). I was fortunate that a lot of my friends either had distinguishing titles or different last names, and it saved me some anxiety.