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Originally Posted by WCsweet<3
The one I went to was great. There were at most 20 of us. It was the bride and groom's immediate family and close friends. We spent a week in Hawaii in a close gathering of cabins and then walked out to the beach for the ceremony. If there had been more than 20 people, there would have been way too much coordination/confusion.
As for my earlier question: it wasn't that I was going to show up with my boyfriend, it's just weird to think of. I think it may be out of the possibility for me as the drive is 2 - 3 hours and the only sisters who live by me are in the bridal party and have to be there earlier than the rest of us.
If you are doing a destination, make it someplace that means something to you or is an amazing place. Driving to desert Oregon that means nothing to the couple and will have nothing of interest around it for the guest all of whom have to drive a couple of hours and spend a few days in town is not a great idea. Hometowns, place you met, Hawaii, vacation places etc. are a much better idea.
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I was feeling "Oh WCsweet<3 just enjoy a weekend in the snow and mountains on your own, it is only 2-3 hours drive, it takes me 1.5 hours minimum to get to Spokane and I do a round trip in a day!" but then you said desert Oregon and you had all my sympathies because eastern Oregon is not only fugly, I am allergic to everything there. If it was in Sisters, maybe, but even The Dalles is pushing it. Why do I think you are being doomed to Mt. Bachelor/Bend?
Though I can understand you want to bring your fella with you, if it really is a budget issue they get to make that distinction and bringing him wouldn't be okay. When I was engaged and/or been in a long term relationship we weren't always invited with each other to weddings and never felt it was rude or a slight, it was a matter of respecting what the couple chose to do with their big day. Since we grew up in different places we didn't have the same group of friends, with no cross over until college/graduate school. Did the gift come from both of us? Of course, as I'm the better gift buyer. It was a lot easier for us to accept the situation since we had our own wedding and budget to work with.
I also don't understand the butt hurt single/unattached people have over not being able to bring a guest or a +1. I'm sure it is a lot to do with my personality, but I'd go to a wedding where I knew one or two people, hell I have done that, and enjoyed meeting new people. I don't see it as a place to be on the hunt for men (kind of creepy) and am there for the bride and/or groom. Why should people pay their caterer for me to bring a random person because I feel entitled or insecure? That's just selfish.