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Originally Posted by WCsweet<3
Alright so here is a question/scenario:
One of my chapter sisters is getting married this next year. She and her husband-to-be don't have that much saved up for the wedding and are cutting costs by not allowing anyone other than the bridesmaids/groomsmen to have dates. This includes significant others of guests even if you are living together/engaged/serious relationship, unless the sig other was also good friends with the couple (basically would have been invited anyway even if y'all weren't a couple).
Mainly I'm bringing this up because we found this info out yesterday and I'm feeling confused. While I understand that they want close friends and family there, a few of the sisters (myself included) live with our boyfriends/fiancee and have all been together for over a year. It is also more or less a destination wedding that is about 2-3 hours minimum from everyone, in snow country in snow season. I'd rather not drive alone.
Does this make sense/is it weird?
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It's weird. It's especially weird that the bridesmaids/groomsmen can have dates but no one else. In my opinion. bringing a +1 that isn't your significant other is awkward anyway when you're in the wedding party because you don't have much time to hang with them and might not even sit with them at dinner.
To be honest, if I were in your situation and concerned about driving alone I would decline the invitation with regrets and send a gift. But, live-in and I have been together for longer than a lot of the couples we're seeing getting married right now anyway, so there's no logical reason not to invite both of us.
I understand cutting costs, but I would do it a different way - limit "primary" guests to very close friends (and obviously family), then allow them to bring their significant other, if they have one. The whole chapter would not get an invitation.