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Apparently most people don't read etiquette books, because NO ONE has ever written "and guest," but everyone expects me to bring my bf.
2 sample conversations:
Wedding #1 - I showed up alone, as that's what I RSVP'ed for.
BRIDE: Oh, it's great to see you!! Where's [BF], is he having a good time.
ME: Oh, I didn't bring him, I didn't think he was invited.
BRIDE: OF COURSE he was invited!
...how the hell was I supposed to know that?!
WEDDING #2 - was a few hours away. I'm not a huge fan of long-distance driving, so I was hoping to bring my boyfriend. The invite didn't say anything about a guest, but I really wasn't sure if I wanted to drive 5 hours by myself, so I called the bride. (I know this is tacky, but I wasn't sure what else to do). She exclaimed that she just assumed that single guests would bring a date. Again, NOT noted on the invite/RSVP card.
Seriously, is it something in my generation's water?! I've been dating my boyfriend for over 2 years now, so I kind of assume most people know I would like to bring him, but it still makes me nervous for those people that DO know etiquette and are not putting +1 because (gasp), they don't want me to bring anyone!
I mostly call other guests with boyfriends and see what's on their card, if none have bf's name or plus one, I go ahead and take BF, but if they do, I assume I should go alone. It is an imperfect system, for sure.
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