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Originally Posted by DubaiSis
The invitation should make it clear. The inside envelope will say Christiangirl and guest or something to that effect. Every person who is invited, even if unnamed, should be listed. As a family, an invitation to my parents might have side "Dubaisis Family" or Dubaisis, DubaiMom, DubaiDad, Dubai Oldestsis, etc., all spelled out. Unless you are a family member or they know you have a bunch of mutual friends attending the wedding, it would be pretty rude to NOT allow you a +1.
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This. Unless the invitation is addressed to christiangirl and guest, chritiangirl does not get to bring a +1.
That said, I have to disagree with it being rude for the hosts (traditionally the bride's family, but often not these days) to not allow a +1 unless they know you'll know many people there. Making up guests lists for weddings can require diplomacy on the level of the UN Security Council. I know that when I was a bachelor, I was invited to a number of weddings where I didn't know people and where I didn't get to bring a +1. I didn't think anything of it.
The general rule is that if you're inviting someone whom you know to be engaged or in a reasonably serious relationship, then the invitation should be for that person "and guest." Otherwise, it's completely up to the hosts and their diplomatic needs.