[LionTamer]

At SEC or other schools where the houses are huge, you are all probably right about "I didn't click = I think I'm too good for this house."

But at schools where the sororities are much smaller, some groups do tend to develop "characters". One of my best friends was a (studious and serious) XYZ and I was a (boisterous) ASA - we often ate with each other's sororities (dorm housing) and I would never have been comfortable at XYZ (even though they were great girls), and she often looked shell-shocked after lunch with the ASAs.

So if someone back then had said "I don't really feel I fit in at ASA", that may very well have been exactly what they meant, and had nothing to do with "status" or appearance-related issues.

With smaller groups, these characters can also change over just a few years; for all I know, a few years later, ASA may have been the "studious" sorority and XYZ may have become more boisterous.

Exception that proves the rule: We recently had a mini-reunion at the shore, and one of my pledge sisters, Kristi, who is very quiet, said "I never understood why so-and-so pledged ASA. She was so quiet, and I can't imagine she was comfortable with us." Everyone just stared at her with her mouth open, because every single one of us had speculated the same thing about our beloved Kristi!