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Old 06-19-2002, 10:46 PM
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I am so sorry to hear about your grandma. I know what you are going through, because I lost my stepdad during finals week. There was an outpouring of love and support from my sisters, and I actually slept at the house the night it happened because I couldn't go home until the next day and I didn't want to be alone in my apartment.

The problem was with some of my other friends. Jewish tradition says that we mourn at the house for seven days after the funeral, and friends stop by to comfort those in mourning. Some of my friends never stopped by or called, and it is really hard not to be angry at them.

I mentioned this to someone and he told me that he wasn't comfortable stopping by, but I think that is really selfish. His roommate was there, so it was not even like he would have to come alone, and it seems that a good friend would handle a little discomfort when I need them. Especially my Jewish friends, who know the tradition and live in the area.

On the other side, some of my friends from whom I have grown apart were there by my side, stopping by and calling to check in on me. Sisters with whom I am not that close weren't sure what to do, and a lot of them called other Jewish sisters to ask.

It just really made me re-evaluate some of my friendships, and how much effort I should be putting into them for what I am getting out.
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