Hang in there MomofPNM11!! I was in your shoes last year
You sound like a caring, loving mom who just wants her daughter to be happy, we get it! My daughter too was out of state and had no idea about any of the 17 houses she went through. Since she was from out of state, she also knew Nobody in any of the houses. In the end, she pledged a house, became an active and now can't imagine her life without her sisters in it! Whichever house your daughter ends up in, she will find her niche of friends and will form a bond like no other. But, I totally understand her feelings right now, as well as yours. And no, she isn't being a spoiled brat etc., her feelings are very real and rejection is hard to take from anybody especially at the tender age of 18! Stay strong for her, and yourself. I think the idea of being there for Bid day is a great idea. My husband and I were there for our daughter, as were many parents. It's an exciting time! And, as a mother, it will be special for you to be there for her no matter what the outcome! P.S. Agree with the glass of vodka! Or in my case it was a nightly glass of cold chardonnay!! Good luck, keep us posted