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I understand both your points. For some reason, certain chapters are thought as "undesirable" or "struggling". However, a lot of that is due to rumors, just like any other stereotype. After going through recruitment as a rho gamma, I saw there were very few differences between the chapters. I mean, yes there are different people and PNMs will get along with more members in one chapter than another, but honestly, I realized that there is very little difference. With what 130 ish members, each chapter is going to be diverse and have a wide range of interests.

I do think that people might fit better into one chapter over another, but I do think that many PNMs and members keep the tent talk ideas and never lose them. That is why some people are like "oh that chapter is struggling." I also wonder if it is something like a self fullfilling prophecy where the new members bring those ideas into the chapter and then the chapter "fails". However, that is beside the point.

I also think this is why it is foolish to drop on bid day. Get to know all the people one can in the chapter before dropping. Not nagging you BrokenGymnast, you had to do what was right for you, it is just something I saw as a rho gamma.


I think abnormal means unwanted, undesirable, struggling, whatever. I also think that is ridiculous. Coming from a chapter that when I joined could be considered "abnormal", it is ridiculous. Chapters change with every new pledge class. The "top" chapters that were there when I went through recruitment are not the same ones they are now. My chapter has changed a ton since I joined!

Anyway, AXOmom, I do agree with your daughter that there is very little that separates the chapters. Most of the differences are in people's heads. Guess what, every chapter is going to say they are diverse, have the best sisterhood, are involved, etc. There really is no "best" house.