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Originally Posted by brokengymnast75
Ooh, sorry about that. I REALLY should have clarified. No, I did not mean released, I was stuck in a sticky situation where I only had one sorority for Preference and got a bid to them, but was incredibly uncomfortable at the house to the point that I would rather not go greek than join that house.
From what I've seen at UO (and I'm sure happens at many other campuses as well), I feel like there seems to be a clear line of the normal sororities and a couple struggling ones. Some girls, find their home in the struggling ones, but I've seen and talked to MANY that were in the same situation as me and just could not accept a bid to the sorority.
So no, I was not released, but I did not find my happy ending that year. While there are numerous reasons explaining where the 250 girls went during recruitment (the football game not helping), some of those will leave with perhaps not a great ending.
Obviously though, the numbers are in your favor. My chapter took about 5 or 6 sophomores last year in a pledge class of 60, if I'm counting right. There may be more or less, cause honestly, I can't pinpoint who is older than most girls in their pledge class.
Again, I'm so sorry about not clarifying. Re-reading it I reads as if I was released.
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Thank you for the clarification.
Of course, every girl needs to make the decision that is best for her and if she doesn't feel like she fits then she has every right to drop out.
I do want to encourage you to be careful about how you word things on a public message board, and I am referring specifically to the paragraph I bolded. I don't know what you meant by stating there is a clear line between the "normal" sororities and two other chapters. I am hoping that you meant simply that they do not have the same numbers as the others (although that isn't totally accurate).
I can tell you that coming to U of O as a sophomore transfer student from another Pac-10 school where greek life was somewhat more competitive than U of O, that "line" wasn't clear to my daughter at all. I realize everyone's experience is different, but when she went through rush (also in 2009), she felt like very little separated the sororities as far as she could tell (which amazed her since the differences were abundantly clear at her previous school), and they all had a pretty diverse membership make up. She likes that about U of O. Granted, she didn't talk to a lot of people in Greek life before she rushed, but she was impressed that the few she did talk to seemed to confirm her impression. Not one of the fraternity or sorority members she spoke to had anything particularly negative to say about any of the sororities on campus.
Also, I guess it depends on the definition of struggling, but from a numbers perspective, that isn't the case with any of the sororities. In 2009 all but one were over total (one was 2 under total) and all but one made quota (it was 4 under). In 2010 all were well over total and all but one made quota (it was 5 under). If they had been struggling two new groups wouldn't have been added in the last 3 years.
I don't mean to sound harsh, I just don't want the person who started this thread to think that a) she stands a good chance of getting cut or b) she's going to have to figure out who the two "abnormal" sororities are and drop out if she gets them because they aren't like the other sororities. Impressions of the various chapters vary greatly from person to person.
I understand your comment about not getting a happy ending. I do think girls need to know that's a possibility and not go in convinced that the sorority they love will be the sorority that loves them (it doesn't always work that way), BUT if they drop out it is at least, in part, an ending they chose. They may have given it a chance and ended up happy - who knows.