Congratulations FuturePNMMOM (you'll have to change your user name but as you can see - AXOmom is taken
). Like you I knew very little about greek life when my daughter decided to go through recruitment and even at a school with a much less competitive rush - it was nerve wracking, and I SO relieved when it ended. The good news is next year will be a breeze - for you. For her - not so much.
I read this forum A LOT (more than I post) because it's been a wonderful resource to me as I try to figure this part of her world. It helps to be able to hold a 1/2 way intelligent conversation with her about something that's become a big part of her life, so I would encourage you to stick around and read, read, read.
My daughter also loved her AXO chapter from the start. It's been a great organization for her, and she's learned a lot over the past two years. I trust the same will be true for your daughter.