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Originally Posted by MysticCat
Sorry, but I don't think there need to be degrees of impoliteness here. I'm just saying that when someone has come on with an outfit that she clearly likes and thinks she might look good in, and when her question is whether it would be appropriate for a specific event, is there really a need to suggest it looks like what a "bottom feeder" would wear? As far as that goes, does a gentleman even utter those kinds of judgments in public?
I think that if he does, he doesn't get to criticize the manners of others. 
I am male, but as I also think that I remember you're a lawyer, I'll offer a different sort of dual: We meet in court and then beers afterward. |
I must admit that in principle I have to agree with you. This silly exchange got off track and out of control over what I was intending as a cautionary comment. I have observed perfectly nice girls being cut to ribbons over a minor mis-step in their appearance during rush and was trying to be helpful. My sister's comment was very much in keeping with what I was afraid might happen. It was a snide remark but I thought it captured and demonstrated what I had hoped to head off. The PNM seemed to be a very nice girl who has done her homework and was seeking advice. My good intention went horribly wrong as I think the response triggered a resentment at what was seen by some as intrusion into a 'closed shop'. No intrusion was intended but when I was ordered to get out of the thread my reaction was to reject orders given by one who lacked the authority to issue said orders.
Anyway, I hope this issue has come to an end and as to our dispute I propose an ADR solution: When you are next in London please be my guest at my Inn of Court (Inner Temple) for lunch and a brew or three or perhaps a bit of claret. Afterwards we could observe English trial procedure at the Royal Courts of Justice across the street. Similar and different at the same time. PM me if OK with you. I think this thread has been off-subject far too long and absent any more attacks I now withdraw. Cheers.