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Originally Posted by TonyB06
Actually, I think we're fairly similar in our thinking; it's just a matter of degree or maybe some terminology. "courtship" and "go sees" are just terms that are too constricting for me. (...otherwise, you've articulated most of my thoughts better and in more detail that I did.)
Obviously, a physical attraction is the first thing any of us sees (or not sees) about another person, but for me their compatibility factors (faith, personality, emotional depth, ability to have fun) all have to come to the fore pretty quickly (while we're dating/courting/go seeing  ) if it would be anything more than a friendship. |
Yep. I totally agree (he's gotta be a hottie, too.
). More importantly, what's important to locate is not the person who "looks" like the person of our dreams, but the person who embodies the things we need in order to have a lasting and fulfilling relationship. The truth of the matter is that love responds to love, and sometimes you will be amazed to discover what love "looks" like.
When I was in school, sometimes some of my friends and I would talk about topics like this one, and everyone would just look at me like... "
". I dunno, it's just that I won't select a mate the way a lot (most) people do (which is why I was single for so long
). It's just that my selection process has to be different because my purpose for a relationship is different. I mean, I just think that if you (in general) don't know your purpose, you won't recognize the right partner.
eta: I guess my dating terminology can be kind of weird at times. Sometimes I just can't find the right words.
