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Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek
I totally agree with PB. It's just that walking in friendship and learning about one another with no intimacy involved affords you the opportunity to learn about the character of a guy without having to make any snap decisions. It's just that once you've walked together for a while and realize that you share a lot on common, you create a bond, and then you'll naturally enter into courtship with the intention of solidifying a commitment. This is why I don't make impulsive decisions on whether a guy is for me upon our initial meeting. Chemistry isn't enough.
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I agree w/ most of what PB said in the post you're referencing, but stopped short of co-signing his definitive wall between intimacy (however an individual defines it) and friendship that he seemed to draw.
Completely setting aside the OP's oddness on the issue, I think most relationships start somewhere closer to "boy-sees-girl, boy-likes-girl, they date and in the process the strength of their friendship leads to the cementing of a relationship." Put another way, I don't think I've ever dated anybody who was "strictly" a friend first. My romantic, or potential romantic interest in anyone that comes to mind, was the trigger to my active pursuit/engagement. The resultling rewardinga and satisfying friendship was/is something a wise person sees along the way.
CG, I understood what you were saying about "good parents" and the covering thing, but I think even your own subsequent posts on the matter (the professional advice vs. your parents' advice on the best route through vet school) confirmed that you know there is a point at which even "good parents" advice has to be set aside in favor of better advice from elsewhere.
But, in the main, I feel what you're saying.
