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Originally Posted by katydidKD
Hijack: What do you do when a friend comes to you really upset and wants to trash the SO? I feel like this happens a lot. They are upset, you comfort them and talk about how dumb he is and blah blah blah. Then this person comes back, and you are supposed to forget all the things they confided to you about how terrible he treated her and what not.
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You can listen to them, comfort them without joining in the bashing.
BFF: He's such a jerk! He's so selfish! I can't believe I wasted my time dating him.
You: I'm sorry you're hurting so much but you need to realize that no relationship is a waste of time if you learn something from it. What did you learn from this?
Kinda like that. YOU are not actually bashing him.
I can't stand my dad's wife. While they were dating, my dad broke things off at one point because her kids are so screwed up and he was afraid he'd end up having to deal with that forever. He said to me "I don't think you ever really liked her anyway, did you?" I said "Dad, what's important to me is that you are happy." Completely evaded the question. Good thing since they've been married for 18 years now.