Sooooo, that was my rush story, but what about the "Why girls Rushing should Read It" portion? This is my opinion, biased I suppose, that I hope will give inspiration to women who aren't finding themselves having a great time with recruitment.
Recruitment was awful in how it made me feel initially on bid day and after day one and two. There were so many times that I wanted to give up because the chapters I thought "I had to be in" had dropped me. A lot of the girls that dropped, though, never got to be in a chapter. There were some COB spots post-recruitment, but there were also over 300 girls that wanted them. Naturally, some girls had to wait for winter or the next fall. So my first lesson to women going through recruitment is stick it out until the end. You may think you like certain chapters more than others, but Grape Soda hadn't been my favorite but once I got closer to them I realized how much I felt that I could have fit in. That being said, I didn't get into Grape Soda. But by sticking it out to the end though, I got to know Mountain Dew even better and ended up joining that chapter. However, that leads me to lesson 2...
To be blunt, ignore the rude girls and keep an open mind! Honestly, I think my perception and eventually my refusal to rank (after pref) Mountain Dew came from bus/outside the house gossip. A lot of PNMs will run into situations where they hear negative things about certain chapters, and especially when a group of girls join in on the conversation it is hard to think outside of the herd mentality. You obviously aren't required to, maybe it truly isn't a chapter for you. But don't allow panic and doubt to set in on a chapter that you like. It's hard, and I know the advice is all over GC but if you like a chapter, then keep having your open mind about them!
Third, a chapter that isn't as established doesn't mean it isn't great. The chapter I joined was an "up and comer" at the time. Since so many girls went through recruitment, the established chapters had 800 girls to pick from and obviously a lot of quality to hand pick. If you are going through recruitment and feel like you keep getting invited back to chapters that you are ranking low, it doesn't mean that other chapters hate you. Maybe they have a lot of members from a certain area, a requirement you didn't meet, needed rec letters, etc. And keep in mind that unless you know people beforehand in the chapter, your chances for the next round can rely on ONE OR TWO people that are meeting probably 40 people on day 1 alone! However, the chapters that traditionally can take more girls by default are going to be able to get more girls that 'slip through the cracks'. If you join a house that is 'up and coming' where you enjoy the girls, you can build up the chapter with new and old sisters  And also, a little secret, every chapter regardless of 'tier' with the fraternities still socials with the fraternities. So hearing rumors about a chapter being 'unpopular' is probably just coming from a girl who wants to make the chapters she is going to sound far superior 
Another lesson I learned is that going Greek was the best thing I've become involved in and that giving a chapter a chance is the best thing to do. I was on the fence, and I talked to someone that helped me realize I should go for it. I was being silly; I was allowing myself to be upset about a chapter that, realistically, didn't choose ME! I was pouting around, and granted it is upsetting, but there was another chapter that wanted to share those bonds of sisterhood. When I first joined, I was a little wary hoping I had made the right choice. But I gave it a fair chance and did stuff with my sisters and couldn't be happier today! I have gotten so much out of my chapter. I have made best friends, socialized with other chapters, gotten leadership positions, learned about other activities on campus, found volunteer passions, and academically expanded because of my chapter. I have grown through the ideals. I have had shoulders to cry on and friends to celebrate with. I can go to my house at any time and know that I can be myself there. With the positive attitude of our pledge class, we have truly made our chapter a competing force for recruitment and won a ton of stuff on campus over the last year.
So basically, you ask, what is really your final point? It is that recruitment is a super short time period where most girls feel rushed, judged, and stressed. It is a time where hundreds (or over a thousand!) women have to be selected within minutes over other women. It is a time that a lot of women give up on because they are stuck in their opinions or what they feel they deserve, yet 90% of girls are basing this off of high school where (most of schools) had definite cliques and usually everyone knew everyone. But in college, you will realize how people are (usually ) over drama. People want to go to the football games, skip their lectures occasionally and pull A's, have fun, and make lifelong friends. If you aren't accepted into your top chapters, I am living proof that sometimes "accepting what you can get" will actually give you the experience of a lifetime <3
Good luck to all going through recruitment now and in coming years
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