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Originally Posted by AOII Angel
These PNMs don't necessarily know that many things go into choosing a member and that even sisters in the same org that are not present at MS aren't privy to that info. I guess that makes people hesitant to say everything is hunky dory and let these girls go into recruitment thinking it won't be an issue when it may.
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Oh, I agree completely. That's why I worded my suggested response the way I did:
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Originally Posted by MysticCat
I don't think it's that difficult or inappropriate to say "XYZ prohibits discrimination on the basis of race, religion, etc., and we expect all of our members and chapters to live up to that. That said, we cannot tell you your chances at any particular school or with any particular chapter. Membership selection is confidential, membership decisions can be based on a wide variety of factors, and we are not privy to the considerations of any specific chapter, nor could we say if we were."
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The flip side is that if we simply answer a question like the OP asked with "membership selection is confidential so we can't tell you," it can give the impression that we think discrimination based on something like race is okay -- no one will know anyway because we don't talk about it. No, we certainly can't tell someone who asks a question about potential discrimination whether it will or won't happen. But we can say that our organizations have taken a position on discrimination rather than risking the impression that they haven't.
All that said, in this case the OP does seem to acknowledge the policies and seems to be asking about the on-the-ground realities.