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I think part of what makes people cry or get otherwise thrown off their game when this happens during recruitment is that it's so shocking. I think most of us have worked in jobs where the occasional jerk is par for the course; you learn to deal with it; and it's not really that unnerving. But recruitment is typically really different.
A couple of the posters here are UGA people too, and the general rapport of recruitment there is incredibly friendly and kind of gushingly supportive, even with people who you may not be that crazy about and don't expect to see again.
So when you run into one of the tiny number of people who will actually say something intentionally, directly mean, it's a little bit like having cold water thrown on you or getting slapped. You are just stunned. It's probably the shock more than the rudeness that upsets you.
On a different topic, and I may have mentioned this before: I confess that I asked a girl in my rush group when we were both going through what her dad did for a living, but it was because she had lived in a bunch of different places. (Weirdly maybe, I hadn't yet known families who relocated for the mom's career.) My dad was in the army, so I wondered if she was a military brat too. I didn't really think about the implications of the question until I saw her exchange a knowing look with one of her friends. Sometimes, that question is a looking for a marker of social class, and sometimes, you sincerely want to know about the career, I guess.
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