A lot of us have "aged" since we joined GC oh so many moons ago, i.e. we don't have as much time to devote to the internet with our new and different responsibilities. Or, like me, I choose to frequent other web sites of interest, that pertain more to my current life priority as a mom rather than my "back-burner" sorority alumnae role.
I like the idea of being recognized for birthdays, and candle passes as well, but if you are stressing over it Honey, than it is for sure one of the first things that needs to go to help yourself become more relaxed.