[MysticCat]

Quite a few people from Carolina post or read here, so with all the information you've given, your question about if and when to tell anything may be a moot point. It's already out there now.

And about looking for a "GOOD fraternity," I'll say it one more time: a good fraternity is the one where you in fit in and feel comfortable, and where the others in the chapters are brothers who accept you for you.